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10.26.2013

Your Self Image Contributes In Achieving Your Goals

Megan Young, as a child, had a habit of walking and pretending that she was a model and a beauty queen. She was not dreaming of becoming one. She simply acted like one. Some twenty years after, Miss World crowned her as Miss World 2013.
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In the book "The Magic Of Believing", it told a story about a young American girl who believed that she was a princess. Many years after, a prince in India fell in love with her and they got married.

In an airport, after a tour abroad, the customs did not open the boxes that the traveler, who was not a rich guy but looked like a wealthy man, brought with him. His friend, who was a wealthy person but looked like a poor person, had all his boxes and luggage opened and inspected scrutinizingly by the customs officer. (You don't have to wear jewelry and expensive signature clothes in order to look rich.)

Back in college, my classmates thought that I was rich. I never argued with them. I let them believed that I was rich even if I was not. When I was working in the corporate world, the people around me believed the same. They believed I was a rich man. But I never disagreed with them. I simply allowed them to continuously believe that I was a wealthy person even if I was simply an ordinary man. Why did they believe as such? Upon learning that I lived in a city popularly known as a city for the wealthy, they automatically believed that I was wealthy as well. Not knowing, that in that city, there lived poor families as well.

Being a poor guy, back in college, I believed that I didn't have to look poor, dress up like a peasant, and behave like an uneducated person for the reason that I was in fact a poor guy. I dressed up like a rich man. I behaved like a rich man -- cultured and educated. I speak with manners and follow good etiquettes. I observed how wealthy people behave and move. I read materials about good manners, etc. I believed inside me that I was I rich guy even if in truth I was not. For that reason, people regarded me as a rich person. I took that as a complement and would simply return a smile. My belief was that a poor person doesn't have to look and behave like a poor man; otherwise, that would be double jeopardy.

Self image is important. If you carry yourself with a self image that exudes who you want to be someday, better start believing now. As far as self development is concerned, who you want to be now is what you are.



10.25.2013

How Long Does It Take To Remove A Bad Habit Or Belief?

Some say that it takes 21 to 90 days to form a habit. Therefore, to reverse a bad habit or belief also takes 21 to 90 days or even longer. Tough? No! It is tougher. It is tougher to reverse a bad habit or belief because it takes two processes: first is to remove or erase the bad "data" in your mind (subconscious-unconscious); second is to replace it with new and better "data" (actually, neuron cells).

Have you ever wondered why a single and short traumatic experience could have a lifetime effect on you? The reason for that is the huge emotion that you put on it. That emotion is like an indelible ink that printed the bad habit in your brain. It was engraved in it.

Bad habits and beliefs caused by traumatic experiences are the hardest to reverse. It takes a lot of time, like years, to reverse it.

On the other hand, a positive emotion, no matter how huge it is, is not enough to replace the bad habits or beliefs formed by a traumatic experience. It takes repeated re-conditioning of the mind to reform such bad habits or beliefs. For that reason, if you want to remove any negative habit or belief in your mind, better start reversing now because it doesn't happen overnight.

10.24.2013

Pronoia: The Universe Is Friendly

Pronoia is defined as a belief that the universe is friendly. The word was coined in 1982 by Fred Goldner, a sociologist.

People have bad habits and beliefs that they are not aware of. Some writers call this unconscious incompetence. Bad habits and beliefs are also called goal blockers.

Say you have a habit of eating milk chocolates after every meal. For you, this is normal — not bad at all. At the same time, you want to lose weight. But no matter how hard you try, you continue to gain weight. Why is that? The answer is that, there must be an old habit that is blocking your goal. And it could be your habit of binge eating of milk chocolates.

So what's the solution? The solution is to turn things positively with new thoughts that are positive. For example, "Eating dark chocolates after a meal increases my metabolism." This new positive thought must be able to convince you and reverse your bad habit of feasting on milk chocolates. Don't say, "Eating milk chocolates is good for me." You can't trick yourself turning your bad habit that way.

Do you believe that the world is unfair and cruel? Do you believe that life sucks? Try to reverse your belief so that you are not stuck in an unwanted situation.
The world is friendly. Believe that the universe is friendly. Pronoia.